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ADD and Punishment?

I have a 16 year old son who has ADD. He takes adderal. The problem is that even with adderal, when he gets home he spends his time messaging and doing everything other than his schoolwork. We sent him to a private school this summer so he could develop good study skills which seemed to work at least until the end of the summer session when he started to slip.

I suggested to my wife that the only way we can get him to recognize that the computers in the house are for work and not play is to eleminate his access to them. He can still walk to the library and use computers there. Once he shows improvement, we can have access to the home machines.

Thoughts on this approach please.

ADD and Punishment?

I have a 16 year old son who has ADD. He takes adderal. The problem is that even with adderal, when he gets home he spends his time messaging and doing everything other than his schoolwork. We sent him to a private school this summer so he could develop good study skills which seemed to work at least until the end of the summer session when he started to slip.

I suggested to my wife that the only way we can get him to recognize that the computers in the house are for work and not play is to eleminate his access to them. He can still walk to the library and use computers there. Once he shows improvement, we can have access to the home machines.

Thoughts on this approach please.

Is there any way to see where he’s been? —?

Today I left my computer on so that my 12 year old nephew could use it while I was at work. He asked I do this so that he could work on his “myspace” pages. Instead of giving my passwords, I just logged on and left it on for him. When I got home I noticed there were 2 documents waiting to be printed. So I turned on the printer and out came pages from Babezplanet.com. I confronted him with it and he swears he did not go there and that he did not print that stuff. Is there a way to confirm where he surfed and if he did or did not do this? How else would this have happened?
Thank you all for your help. I checked the history and temporary files and found no hint of the Babezplanet. My newphew did also print out a MySpace webpage and it appears the Babezplanet somehow tagged along. I understand that is possible?

Why would he say, “you should buy us”?

ok silly question…but it’s been bugging me. I was talking with this guy that I’ve been dating for over a year, while we were watching a show on the travel channel. Anyway, like out of the blue, he said “you should buy us a log cabin in the woods” . huh? first I thought about the YOU & the US part of it. So what do you think he’s getting at with this comment?
(silly I know..but it’s been boggling my mind!)

How can I get my grown son and his family to move out on their own?

He is 25, has a wife and my new granddaughter. They moved back in with us a year ago after having their own apartment for awhile. It was supposed to be to save money for putting a down payment on a house in Michigan because his work was transferring him there. Now that is not the plan anymore and they are still here. Whenever I bring up the subject of “Gee it would be nicer for you guys if you had your own place, privacy, etc.” I get him blowing up in my face about how rents are “too high” around here. .. No matter how gently I try to put it. His wife wants to move and she gets the same reaction from him. They are paying me some rent but they don’t cook or clean and they come and go without saying a word. They are both making good money so I think they can move out and get their own place. Does anybody have some suggestions on how I could bring this up without getting him to blow his top? I try to talk about this as gently and tactfully as I can.