My husband is basically a wonderful man. We married when my children from 1st marriage were 4 and 6. We also have 3 children together. (2 at home- youngest is 6)) After my mother died in ’99 i received a substantial inheritance and we bought our “dream” land (15 acres) and built a house. It has become a nightmare. Not enough time, energy or money to keep it up. (also, no one helps me) Anyway, 2 yrs. ago we decided to divorce and put the house up for sale. It has not sold. We are simply “waiting”. At least thats what I think, as we dont talk about it AT ALL. We get along fine, he’s a great story teller, he makes me laugh still, puts up with lots of my crap, but we’re just “pretending”, i feel, for the kids. We sleep in separate rooms and have our own lives, but as long as I am home and “play” the role, everything is “fine”. If I ask if we’re still getting divorced, his answer is usually something like, “May as well.” I have no idea what we’re doing. This could go on forever.