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She called me a “selfish brat” because I told her that her timing with the house remodel was bad. I said she is so busy that I don’t feel like I can ask for her help with anything for the wedding because she needs some time to rest. She says she is doing it for me because she wants my guests to stay in a pristine house, but it is just her pride because she wants everything to look perfect so she looks good. I’m trying to check myself on this, but I feel like I’m going crazy. I think it could have waited another month. She has years to make home improvements, but hopefully I will only get married once. She is redoing the roof, reflooring the kitchen and one of the bathrooms and putting up sheetrock in the living room. (yes, all in the next two weeks). How do I get her to let go of all that? Plus she just had surgery for cancer last year and she is supposed to be resting, but she works really hard and doesn’t take any breaks.
We set the wedding date 11 months ago. She loves my fiance like a son. The contractors were supposed to be finished 3 months ago, but kept moving the dates. At this point, I thought she should have put it off until after the wedding so she doesn’t work herself to death. I DO tell her I’m concerned for her. That is my whole point.
She bought the house last year and none of the remodels were “necessary” it doesn’t look bad. People are coming to see us (her too) not the house.