i just left my guy of over a year because it had become a very controlling relationship. ive always been strong and independent, but got stuck and kept thinking he could change. he could be the nicest guy, helped me a lot, but now i see that it was his control and power. Hed pay rent but throw it in my face. things only got worse, his verbal and physical abuse made me feel like i was his unloved pet, not someone he cared for. so i left a few weeks ago and now im trying to start all over again in a new town, because i dont feel safe in my own apartment. i know its the best choice for me but it is so hard, because i lost so much being with him, now i finally leave, and lose my friends and life of 4 years. which is better than losing my life, i guess, but wish that there was some way to make him hurt, emotionally, the way he has made me.
im out now, but if anyone is still in one, do the right thing, and get out. i know its easier said than done, but you will never be able to find true happiness until you do.